Topic: Speed-dating: A little like entering the great wild?
Posted by: Aly Walansky
A friend and I (actually the friend I wrote about last week), decided to try our luck at the mystical world that is speed-dating last night.
If any of you are unfamiliar (and missed the Sex and the City episode devoted to it), you take turns telling the person across the table all the meaningful details about yourself, hoping that (if they are not too terribly strange) you might click enough to want to have a full date. You’ve got 3 minutes. Then a gong shrills, and your next date appears. Repeat. 40 times. If you are lucky, you may get a pee break.
We are talking serious marathon dating.
In the SATC plot, Miranda didn’t do well at all. Many people don’t - and then you ask yourself, do you really want to put yourself through 40 bad dates in one evening? Isn’t ONE enough?
As anyone who’s ever been single knows … when it rains it pours. Raining men, that is! We’ve all been there, suffering through a long dry spell - and then all at once, the heavens open up and send us a downpour of bow-wrapped manhood! You meet several hot dating prospects within a couple of weeks and have to juggle a bunch of guys at once. That is exactly what the scene is at speed dating, except it’s all blind dates, and you are obligated to be nice (for 3 minutes), before moving on.
Depending on the locale (I ended up at a downtown lounge complete with video arcades, stiff drinks and free Cosi on premesis), participants take their seats on sofas or long narrow bar tables. When the gong blows, your first 3-minute date has begun. The gong will blow every three minutes and the men get up and move to the next date. If you like the guy you’re talking to, you write his name on your score card and circle ‘Yes’. If you don’t want to see him again, you circle ‘No’. When the event is over, you enter in your own responses on the website. Everyone’s Yes’s and No’s are calculated, and if you “match” with a guy – meaning you said yes to him and he said yes to you, you receive each other’s email addresses. The next step is up to you! Very often the event will be centered around certain age groups or fields (say, creative people).
Sounds great, in theory - but all just a little intense for the average shy single. And so, the next day, it all seems a little like a whirlwind - friends attending together, one disappointed because the other got more matches than she did, and the girl who got lots of matches feeling somewhat confused...honestly not able to at this point pinpoint one guy against the other in her memory's annals.
So, I was wondering, what all of you thought of this dating "method". Is there a way to best make it work for you?
Speed dating is getting popular as the day goes by. Yeah you are right it will me more profitable for people if the number of singles are limited.
Posted by: BSB | March 06, 2012 at 11:21 AM
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Posted by: Shaadi | May 05, 2012 at 05:10 AM
How does these speed dating work? Been willing to try it out but somehow I still haven't.
Posted by: Maya | May 23, 2012 at 10:04 PM
I tried speed dating once, it wasn't perfect...I'll tell you that much!
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Speed dating is always sounded fun to me but I have never been able to try it because I always seem to be in relationships when my friends are doing it.
Posted by: Dating Bullet | August 18, 2012 at 03:01 AM
Speed dating is always sounded fun to me but I have never been able to try it because I always seem to be in relationships when my friends are doing it.
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Posted by: Susan Conner | February 14, 2013 at 09:05 PM
I have to say you raise some great point.
I would most agree with this:
"As anyone who’s ever been single knows … when it rains it pours."
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Posted by: Joe | February 23, 2013 at 06:51 PM
Never done speed dating and don't really like the idea. Even though at a deeper level you know if you feel attraction for someone, 3 minutes (or whatever the alotted time) is not enough time to really get to know if you'd like to spend more time with the person. A suggestion i would have is that each person has a profile that can be read (like people would have online) and then you can decide who you would like to meet. If two agree to meet, make the introduction longer than 3 minutes and go from there.
Posted by: Michael Spenceley | March 08, 2013 at 02:26 PM
Don't really like speed dating. Too quick of an introduction. Don't get much of a chance to say more than hello.
Posted by: Mike Spenceley | March 19, 2013 at 12:43 AM
Speed dating is too fast... and not fast in an exciting way either. That's my view of it anyway.
Posted by: Sam S | March 20, 2013 at 02:24 AM
Don't like speed dating. Too fast. How do you get to know someone in so little time? Your opening routine becomes dull as you do it so many times and you come off as uninteresting becuase everything becomes automatic.
Posted by: Sam S | March 27, 2013 at 11:29 PM
I'm going to have to give this speed dating thing a try. You've made me curious about it.
Posted by: M Sorento | March 31, 2013 at 02:38 PM
Speed dating can be so crazy, intense, awkward and high pressure. It's not a natural way of meeting!
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