Topic: Speed-dating: A little like entering the great wild?
Posted by: Aly Walansky
A friend and I (actually the friend I wrote about last week), decided to try our luck at the mystical world that is speed-dating last night.
If any of you are unfamiliar (and missed the Sex and the City episode devoted to it), you take turns telling the person across the table all the meaningful details about yourself, hoping that (if they are not too terribly strange) you might click enough to want to have a full date. You’ve got 3 minutes. Then a gong shrills, and your next date appears. Repeat. 40 times. If you are lucky, you may get a pee break.
We are talking serious marathon dating.
In the SATC plot, Miranda didn’t do well at all. Many people don’t - and then you ask yourself, do you really want to put yourself through 40 bad dates in one evening? Isn’t ONE enough?
As anyone who’s ever been single knows … when it rains it pours. Raining men, that is! We’ve all been there, suffering through a long dry spell - and then all at once, the heavens open up and send us a downpour of bow-wrapped manhood! You meet several hot dating prospects within a couple of weeks and have to juggle a bunch of guys at once. That is exactly what the scene is at speed dating, except it’s all blind dates, and you are obligated to be nice (for 3 minutes), before moving on.
Depending on the locale (I ended up at a downtown lounge complete with video arcades, stiff drinks and free Cosi on premesis), participants take their seats on sofas or long narrow bar tables. When the gong blows, your first 3-minute date has begun. The gong will blow every three minutes and the men get up and move to the next date. If you like the guy you’re talking to, you write his name on your score card and circle ‘Yes’. If you don’t want to see him again, you circle ‘No’. When the event is over, you enter in your own responses on the website. Everyone’s Yes’s and No’s are calculated, and if you “match” with a guy – meaning you said yes to him and he said yes to you, you receive each other’s email addresses. The next step is up to you! Very often the event will be centered around certain age groups or fields (say, creative people).
Sounds great, in theory - but all just a little intense for the average shy single. And so, the next day, it all seems a little like a whirlwind - friends attending together, one disappointed because the other got more matches than she did, and the girl who got lots of matches feeling somewhat confused...honestly not able to at this point pinpoint one guy against the other in her memory's annals.
So, I was wondering, what all of you thought of this dating "method". Is there a way to best make it work for you?
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Posted by: Awesome | December 21, 2010 at 07:34 PM
Seemms like a good idea to avoid those awkward dates where you're both looking at your watch to see how long you have to go until you can politely leave.... However, 3 minutes does seem a bit crazy. Read my internet dating blog at www.harrietbond.com for my experiences!
Posted by: Harriet Bond | January 23, 2011 at 09:47 AM
Speed dating is good for sales people and others that work in public relationships.
Get your elevator speech ready, blurt it out in 1 minute and smile and make superficial jokes for the rest of the time.
For those of us who are a bit deeper than that, who need a bit of time to reveal ourselves and get to know others, speed dating is like a lot of commercials flashing by on TV. If it's good, you may like it at first, but when you try it, you're up for a bad surprise!
Posted by: sarah | January 26, 2011 at 01:20 PM
Speed dating's definitely not for everyone, I've been to one event before which I found reasonably enjoyable but it is a bit hectic. It's a bit crazy meeting so many people and having to make a good impression in the short amount of time given. I didn't meet anyone that I really clicked with but on the other hand my friend met a guy she really liked and they're still dating at the moment. I would definitely recommend that people give it a go and if they don't like it, they don't have to go again.
Posted by: Speed Dating In London | January 27, 2011 at 05:46 AM
Speed dating can actually work these days, given that so many of us spend so much time focused on our careers and not our social life. It's a bit sad I guess, but we all need to find the right balance, and who has time to go out and date so many people to find the right companion?
Posted by: top 10 dating websites | February 09, 2011 at 07:46 PM
I think it is better to find dates online, online dating is the trend today and it saves you from discomfort and unwanted disappointments. However, speed dating is considerable as long as it is with the confinement of your recommendation rather than in a crowded and loud place.
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Posted by: Flirt | April 28, 2011 at 02:18 AM
I like the concept of this idea, and all I can imagine is that there are a lot of things hidden around it, for example, think about: why people show up to speed dating at the first place, my best guess is because they've not had any luck in the past or they have a hard time dating, probably because of their personality, probably because there is something more, per say fetiche or frustrated rapist, who knows, I would not trust that. Just won't hehe.
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Posted by: John | May 18, 2011 at 08:00 PM
speed dating seems to be a fun , I have to try it!
Posted by: Feromonas | May 25, 2011 at 12:17 PM
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Posted by: Red Rhyder | May 29, 2011 at 07:29 AM
I've tried speed dating a few times. It's actually pretty cool!
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Posted by: Scent of Eros | September 24, 2011 at 12:12 AM
Unless you get very lucky, I can't see speed dating as a way to really meet someone. What can you really know about someone in 3 minutes beyond attraction? Don't get it, but I guess it works for some.
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Posted by: Date Me Canada | October 29, 2011 at 11:24 PM
I think speed dating works well for people who are naturally charming and outgoing. If you can think on your feet, you'll probably have a lot of success.
People who are shy would probably be better off with internet dating/matchmaking services where you can take things more slowly.
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