Reconnecting

Posted by:  Wendy Shalit
Topic:  When a couple settles into a rut, can they ever escape and recapture “the spark”?

Yes they can, but sometimes it requires taking a break from physical intimacy and then reconnecting.  The biggest enemy in a marriage is a couple taking one another for granted.  We all say this, and yet it can so easily happen and we don't know how.

It happens in the details. Not saying "thank you" and "please," treating your loved one in a way you would never speak to a stranger.  It happens in the attitude towards dress, superficial as this may seem.  Very often after a couple has been together awhile, both partners will get dressed up to go out, and to make themselves beautiful-- primarily for other people they don't care about.  Then when they get home, they see each other in sweatpants.  It's good to be comfortable, but not so comfortable that you forget that the other person matters.

Recently, I heard a very cute story on a Lori Palatink tape--which I hope to talk more about on Friday. But for now, the story.  As soon as it was time for the rabbi to come home, a particular rebbetzin (rabbi's wife) would rush to get ready for her husband's arrival.  With many children to manage, before long her ritual entailed just one small thing: running to the bathroom and applying lipstick.  (The rabbi always made a point of tucking in his shirt before he arrived home, in case you are fretting over a double standard.)

Well, one day the rebbetzin was taking a nap on the couch when the rabbi arrived at the door.  The children didn't know what to do: Their father was home, but their mother was not ready!  The rebbetzin woke up a few minutes later to lipstick shmeared all over her face, courtesy of her small children.

A very cute story!  But also a nice reminder, to me, that the path to reconnecting is often in the little details.

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