Posted by: Wendy Shalit
Topic: One Last Question, and Goodbye for Now
It's interesting that Dan considered Madonna's recent purchase to be a sign of her marriage's strength. I suppose he could be right, but the fact that their "marital aid" was exhibited in a see-through bag for all to see--not to mention the nature of the toy in question--makes the whole business a bit more complicated in my view. To me it's more plausible that Madonna was trying to send a message to the general public at the expense of Guy Ritchie.
I could be wrong about that. But I certainly have seen an increasing trend of people trying to "send a message" to strangers, often at the expense of a loved one. At the tamer end, there are jokes about socks being left on the floor; at the extreme, one's spouse is publicly humilated for the entertainment of others.
Brings to mind a question: Does the person you're dating bring out the best in you? A simple yet crucial question. I've seen cases of really great, intelligent people who, when put together, can't seem to do anything except make fun of others. That's in the heady stage of intoxication, mind you; when that stage wears off, then they tend to make fun of each other. Have you ever seen this, or experienced it? If it's happening to you, you might want to consider getting out of the relationship.
Or conversely, if someone doesn't seem right for you "on paper" but your gut tells you that you're a better person when you're with him or her--well then, hang on to that person, and don't let go.
I guess that would be my parting message. Yes, it's hard to believe but today is my last blog. These five months have gone by so quickly. Needless to say, it's been really fun and interesting to hear all the different perspectives whizzing around on this blog. I'm definitely going to miss all of you--yes, even you Dan!
So don't be strangers, and hope we keep in touch.