What advice would you give a friend
who is looking to find love in 2008?
Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
What advice would I give to a friend who is looking to lose weight in 2008?
- Sign up for a gym.
- Go at least three times a week for an hour at a time.
- Hire a personal trainer to keep you motivated and focused.
- Read a few diet books and figure out which one speaks to you most.
- Incorporate ALL of that book’s suggestions into your life, which probably means fewer carbs, sugars and fats, more vegetables, smaller portions, no late night eating, and vigilant awareness of what you’re putting into your body.
- Have a healthier approach to living and accept that you’re doing the best you can.
Now presuming you did ALL of these things, what would you expect the results to be?
couldn’t guarantee that you’d qualify for
what I advocate for people who are looking for a new lease on love. Not weight loss. Effort. Don’t just
talk about it. LIVE IT. Carve out time and energy. Invest money in it. If you
say that a relationship is your top priority, start acting like it. Most of us want
it to happen, but we don’t really do anything to MAKE it happen. We somehow
think that love should happen organically, like a cute, scripted
My entire job as a dating coach is to be a personal trainer for people who want to fall in love. My clients get on a healthy dating regimen and actively incorporate dating into their busy lives. That might mean getting professional photos, rewriting your online profile, working on flirting and dating, or simply discussing the confusing nuances of dating and relationships.
So what does this mean for you? Certainly not that you should hire me as your dating coach. But, for your own sake, do SOMETHING. Go to the gym and get in shape. Join a MeetUp group that puts you in contact with other single people. Sign up for Chemistry.com. Contact a matchmaker.
But no matter what, make sure your actions are aligned with your goals. Because if you say you want to get married and aren’t doing a single thing to try to get married, you’re no different than every overweight person who refuses to diet and work out.
This is hard to hear because it means taking responsibility, even when you feel the only reason you’re still single is that you “just haven’t met the right person”.
I’m in no position to argue, but I would ask you this: what are you doing TO meet the right person?