Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
Topic: Technology, Evil
Ah, the kids these days with their hi-fi and rock and roll music.
Seems that people have always complained about the advent of change. The older generation avoids embracing and incorporating technology; the younger generation can't imagine living without it. It's a long-running debate whether all of this improves our lives, and there's no one right answer. But as a guy who could be considered the online dating poster child, I'd have to say that I absolutely, positively think that technology is BAD for relationships.
Make no mistake, online dating was inevitable. With more single people and more computers than ever before, it makes perfect sense. Thousands of folks who never would have met owe their happiness to cyber-dating. Yet I can only conclude that our computer-based isolation has changed the way we communicate for the worse. MySpace and Facebook may be compelling ways to express ourselves through graphic art, music, and garish pictures of strangers in tight T-shirts, but there's no denying that our connections are tenuous. Friendship doesn't mean friendship on MySpace. It means you think someone's photo is hot. Or you like their album. What percentage of your friends do you actually know on a site like that? Among the medium's biggest proponents, the number is woefully low.
And this isn't just me being prudish. There is a negative qualitative difference in HOW we communicate online. Email and text has loosened our ability to spell, use complete sentences, or write fluidly. Hell, anyone who's ever had a meaningful relationship discussion over email knows that it's a terrible idea. Email is great if you want to set a meeting, not if you want to discuss where your relationship is going. Yet clients tell me how they've been dumped via text message, or were unceremoniously blocked from someone's MySpace page. This is the wave of the future?
Once upon a time, I was a counselor at a summer camp in upstate
As Aly pointed out, the virtues of technology are many. Most obviously, technology is an amazing tool which allows us to instantaneously stay in touch with hundreds of people all over the globe.
But go look through a box of your mother's love letters and ask yourself if we're truly better off.