Topic: What advice would you give a friend looking to find love in 2008?
Posted by: Aly Walansky
I think my advice is to stop trying.
That sounds awfully defeatest for a relationship blog, but the point is that as long as you run around looking for love ("in all the wrong places"), it's going to elude you.
I have a friend who has been on the prowl as long as I know her. She goes to bars for the specific purpose of meeting her future husband. Halfway through her second drink, she grows morose that no one is talking to her and begins to grow bitter, angry, and jaded, followed by teary. This happens just about every time we are out, and I'm pretty sure is the reason she's still on the prowl.
Sad thing is, she's an awesome girl that when she's not on a mission, is fun to talk to, and easy to approach. But who wants to deal with *that* pressure?
Relationships and love take (and deserve) work. But meeting people is the fun part. Just have fun, be yourself, and let it happen.
When you're looking for dating, you must make sure your self-esteem is intact.
Only until you completely love and accept yourself, you can you begin to love and romance. And frankly, you won't fully enjoy a relationship if you're not ready for it. If anything, it will simply add to your stress and anxiety in life.
A last word of advice: relationships take time and energy. If you're pursuing a demanding career or raising children and your relationship doesn't help you do these things, but instead distracts you from them, then it might be time to put love on the side for now.
There are times in your life when you aren't meant to be in a relationship and remaining single is the best gift you can give yourself.
Posted by: UK Millionaire Dating | May 20, 2008 at 01:41 PM
When you're looking for dating, you must make sure your self-esteem is intact.
Only until you completely love and accept yourself, you can you begin to love and romance. And frankly, you won't fully enjoy a relationship if you're not ready for it. If anything, it will simply add to your stress and anxiety in life.
A last word of advice: relationships take time and energy. If you're pursuing a demanding career or raising children and your relationship doesn't help you do these things, but instead distracts you from them, then it might be time to put love on the side for now.
There are times in your life when you aren't meant to be in a relationship and remaining single is the best gift you can give yourself.
Posted by: UK Millionaire Dating | May 20, 2008 at 01:41 PM
When you're looking for dating, you must make sure your self-esteem is intact.
Only until you completely love and accept yourself, you can you begin to love and romance. And frankly, you won't fully enjoy a relationship if you're not ready for it. If anything, it will simply add to your stress and anxiety in life.
A last word of advice: relationships take time and energy. If you're pursuing a demanding career or raising children and your relationship doesn't help you do these things, but instead distracts you from them, then it might be time to put love on the side for now.
There are times in your life when you aren't meant to be in a relationship and remaining single is the best gift you can give yourself.
Posted by: UK Millionaire Dating | May 20, 2008 at 01:51 PM
Desperate isn't attractive and neither is dull. Instead of dedicating yourself to the search for a partner, dedicate yourself to enjoying life to the full. That way you'll meet interesting people interested in things you like and will be interesting to them too!
The dating game shouldn't be an all-consuming obsession. Finding love is supposed to be fun! And, here's a fun take on the science of attraction:
http://www.pressies4princesses.co.uk/gods-gift-test.shtml
Posted by: Steve Sugden | September 01, 2008 at 12:27 AM
I agree - if you quit rtying so hard and instead focus on yourself - becoming the best that uyou can be, gaining confidence and perspective, love will find you. You cannot love if you are incomplete without another person and unhappy when you are alone. You first need to love yourself and be happy in your own skin. When you do that, you will attract that person you have been waiting for.
Posted by: Sarah L | February 09, 2009 at 06:58 PM
Yes, it's right have fun! If you want to find love then give love first then you gain it. First set who or what kind of person you want to love and go to the place where you can find that person you are looking for. Have fun in loving someone. Fun!
Posted by: Asian Dating | November 04, 2009 at 07:11 PM
There is a reason for the idea that it happens when you least expect it. It is because if you are trying to make it happen, guys or girls pick up on that. No one wants someone who is desperate.
Posted by: stop a breakup | December 09, 2009 at 01:33 PM