Topic: What advice would you give a friend looking to find love in 2008?
Posted by: Aly Walansky
I think my advice is to stop trying.
That sounds awfully defeatest for a relationship blog, but the point is that as long as you run around looking for love ("in all the wrong places"), it's going to elude you.
I have a friend who has been on the prowl as long as I know her. She goes to bars for the specific purpose of meeting her future husband. Halfway through her second drink, she grows morose that no one is talking to her and begins to grow bitter, angry, and jaded, followed by teary. This happens just about every time we are out, and I'm pretty sure is the reason she's still on the prowl.
Sad thing is, she's an awesome girl that when she's not on a mission, is fun to talk to, and easy to approach. But who wants to deal with *that* pressure?
Relationships and love take (and deserve) work. But meeting people is the fun part. Just have fun, be yourself, and let it happen.