Posted by: Dr. Helen Fisher
Topic: What’s the best thing about being single during the holidays…and the best thing about being coupled up over the holidays?
The best things about being single during the holidays, and by single I mean unattached, is that you can do exactly as you please. You can hang with your friends, linger with your relatives, and go to parties--without having to worry about how a partner is coping with your mother, your best friend, or your business colleagues. And you don’t have to face that awful situation of NOT inviting your partner to various events. But being a couple has tremendous joys—particularly all the little traditions you have built (or are building) together: buying a Christmas tree and trimming it, reading “A Christmas Carol” together, cooking festive meals together, romping together in the streets, with mutual friends and relatives, or just talking alone by the fire.
Christmas (and I have to speak about Christmas because it is the mid winter holiday that I grew up with) can be very difficult, though. Single or as a couple, many people leave their daily lives behind to celebrate with people they don’t know terribly well any more. Many of us become nostalgic as we reminisce. And at these pivotal times, we notice what we have not achieved as well as what we have accomplished. But that’s life. And having been single for many a Christmas, as well as with a partner, I prefer having someone to squeeze as I smell the tree and watch the twinkling lights. That’s the human way.