Posted by: Sherry Amatenstein Topic: Speaking from personal experience, what are the three best things about being single?
Posted by: Sherry Amatenstein
Topic: Speaking from personal experience, what are the three best things about being single?
I love the:
Freedom of being captain-ette of my own ship – able to watch as much junk TV as I want, to travel across the world or even across town at a moment’s notice, to spend an entire weekend on a creative project without feeling guilty and above all, having survived an oppressive marriage, to know that no one calls the shots in my life except me. Of course the flip side is that when I'm sick I have the freedom to buy myself Vicks Vapor Rub and chicken soup.
Anticipation that the next person I meet might be the one – the someone who can be my missing limb, my other half. Or even if he ultimately is not soul mate material, there’s nothing more exciting than the excitement of new love. Unless it's the ongoing if quieter satisfaction that comes from waking up next to a beloved and being able to plan the day's activities with the person you want by your side tomorrow and tomorrow and tomorrow.
Fulfillment I receive from making each day count. Since the only one at home is my cat, there’s no one to blame but myself if my life isn’t purring along the way I want. Therefore I push myself, often when I’m not in the mood, to attend that lecture, drag my weary bones to the gym, learn a new hobby, and involve myself in a worthy cause. It is my cause to make my life count. But wouldn’t it be lovely to explore a shared passion with my partner? One is definitely not the loneliest number. That “honor” belongs to someone trapped in a bad relationship. However, two people committed to forging a vital, pulsing relationship full of adventure and security - well, that ain't chicken feed.
Being single and being married both have pluses and minuses - it's a lifestyle choice, stupid! It's what you make of it.