Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
A recent study says that we can correctly figure out what a stranger is thinking 20% of the time…and what a romantic partner is thinking 35% of the time. In your opinion, what does that indicate about how well we know our mates?
Well, if the average person uses 10% of his brain, and 48% of those people believe in ESP, and 13% of those people have their powers work on strangers, then…wait, where was I?
Oh, I got it. Something about knowing my girlfriend better than the checkout guy at the Gap. Yeah, that’s true.
I’m not really sure what to make of such statistics, except that they probably say a lot about the subtle nuances that come with familiarity. I just don’t think this is any surprise. You can probably navigate your way around your home blindfolded safely 60% of the time, and hit a hotel room coffee table in the dark 80% of the time, but what does this prove? We know things we already know?
However, I do have this to say about familiarity – it doesn’t necessarily breed contempt.
In fact, I smile every time I speak and my girlfriend laughs and replies, “Get out of my head!” It’s wonderful to be on the same wavelength with a romantic partner, much the way we are with siblings who know us as we know ourselves. You know your relationship is on a higher plane when you can pick up something wrong in her voice, exchange knowing glances across a crowded party, and, of course, finish each others’ sentences
So yeah, there’s beauty in familiarity, all right.
But I think the real word for it is this: