Posted by: Amy Spencer
Topic: A recent study says that we can correctly figure out what a stranger is thinking 20% of the time…and what a romantic partner is thinking 35% of the time. In your opinion, what does that indicate about how well we know our mates?
You know what's funny about this? The first thing I thought of when I saw those numbers was how little we actually know our partners. In my eyes, 35% is nothing in the grand scheme of things!
In my life, I get a kick out of it when my husband can figure out what I'm thinking (Granted, it's often, "What, do you want to get an In and Out burger?"). But I find that when I'm on a roll with a few of those, "Ah, I know my husband so well" moments, I can get a little cocky about it. That's when I stop asking—and start assuming—what he wants. And we know what happens when you assume... I screw up on some guess or assumption, and I'm then left wondering, "Do I really know my guy at all?"
I imagine those percentages go up the longer you're with a partner. But personally, I'm going to take it as a reminder that my husband is still 65% mystery to me. So from now on, I'll leave the mind reading and "trying to figure out" options at the door when I can, and stick to the good old-fashioned tactics: verbalized conversation and communication, guaranteed to have a much higher success rate!