Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
Topic: What’s the best thing about being single during the holidays…and the best thing about being coupled up over the holidays?
This might be the first holiday season that I’m arriving at parties with someone on my arm, instead of looking for someone to squire home. Yes, I’m serious, and no, I’m not embarrassed about it.
Okay, maybe a little.
And while I’m a fierce advocate of the single life, I gotta tell you, this couple stuff is SO much better. I guess one can make an argument that the excitement of naughty eggnog sex with a stranger is superior to exchanging mundane stocking stuffers with the one you love. It’s just that, right now, I’m not the one to make that argument.
This past weekend, my girlfriend and I drove two hours to her hometown for a holiday cocktail party. Parking took us forever, and we wandered aimlessly in our attempts to find the apartment in the cold rain. I spent time talking to her mother and stepfather, and probably spent three hours counseling various women on their respective love lives. (Tell people you’re a dating coach and these things happen naturally). And, apart from refilling my girlfriend’s martini glass twice, we barely spoke two words while at the party. We went home at 3am and crashed in her friend’s guest room without even a kiss.
Yet, I don’t even think I have to explain why I feel so lucky to be in love this holiday season.
All the reasons that we appreciate our relationships – constancy, warmth, companionship, affection, family – are amplified during the holidays. We sang out loud in the car, held hands while getting lost in the apartment complex, exchanged knowing glances from across the room, and held each other warmly under the thin blankets at night. This is love, and damn, it feels good.
In my mind, there is never a tougher time to be single than the holidays, and never more of a motivation to find true love.
Or at least some naughty eggnog sex.