Topic: What three things do you think are vital to an amazing relationship?
Posted by: Vix the Over-Educated Nympho
There is a huge difference between a good relationship and an amazing relationship. Yes, I'm playing the semantics game here but I think it's important to make the distinction. "Good" can be enough to keep a couple together through the rough times. But amazing? "Amazing" is what keeps a couple together and happy together through the rough times.
The criteria for a good relationship are the foundation for an amazing relationship, but certainly not enough to make an A+ in amazingness. Good relationships have
Those have to be in place for any sort of solidity with another person, whether in a romantic or platonic relationship. Any gaps between those qualities leave room for things like condenscension, jealousy, and resentment to seep in.
Amazing relationships have "simpler" criteria, yet for some reason it seems harder to find all these with someone else:
- great sex
That's right, I SAID SEX. Evan said it as the token guy on the panel and now I'm saying it again because sex is not just a guy's issue. Although sex is not important to everyone out there, it is d*** important to many of us. Of course I agree that any good relationship is based on more than good sex, but as Aly said, it's hard to have a good relationship with bad sex. I shudder at the thought. Memory. Whatever.
One of the perks of being part of a couple is you always have your own personal cheerleader--someone to remind you that you're brilliant and wonderful even when you feel as awesome as a piece of poo. There's accepting someone as she is, which falls under the respect/good relationship category, but there's the step beyond: encouraging your loved one to be the person she wants to be, even if it means giving up the dual-income household so she can go to art school and acquire debt all over again.
Laughter is hands-down the most important quality. It keeps a couple going at it through all the involuntary weird noises during sex, it helps through the rough times, and it is what people remember about their parents after they've been married for thirty-something years.
A good relationship is just that--good. Does that mean it's good enough to keep you happy throughout the years? Maybe yes, maybe not. I've been in enough good relationships to know that next time I'm holding out for something amazing.