Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
Topic: Do you think you can really and truly “feel” chemistry via email?
If you realize that writing an email is pretty much the same thing as talking – you’d be hard pressed to conclude that there is no such thing as email chemistry. Before the Internet, legions of people fell in love through letters. And while email doesn’t hold a candle to ink and parchment, it can still be a very personal form of communication.
Presuming you embrace email, you’ve probably been met with the heightened expectations that accompany lengthy email exchanges. I’ve fallen for women that I’d never spoken to on the phone, just because our frequent correspondence made me giddy. After all, witty banter is witty banter, regardless of whether it’s spoken or written. And verbal people will be always be turned on by a turn of phrase, a pithy insight, or a dirty come-on. If words couldn’t communicate feeling, why would we ever bother to read for pleasure?
So yes, I will say with no hesitation that there can be a strong feeling of chemistry via email.
And at the end of the day, it doesn’t mean a thing.
Because what everybody ELSE calls chemistry is that magical, ephemeral, intangible, hormonal rush that you can only get in the physical presence of another human being. And no matter how much email chemistry you’ve got going on, if the physical part isn’t there, it doesn’t amount to jack squat.
Take it from a guy who has written over five hundred online dating profiles: there’s the advertisement and there’s the product.
If the two don’t match up – if the words don’t go with the pictures – nothing else makes a difference.
Still, I sure do love a woman who can make me tingle with a text message.