Posted by:Sherry Amatenstein
Topic:Recently some schools banned hugging and “extreme displays of public affection” – what impact do you think this will have on kids and teens, as they become adults?
An eight grader gets detention for hugging friends at school - this because school officials fear a sexual harrassment charge by a peer. The ‘hug offense’ was committed while comforting a friend who'd recently lost a parent - clearly grounds for having the (school) book thrown at the perpetrator. At least she didn’t get expelled, the fate of kindergartners “caught” kissing each other on the cheek.
The message this sends to students - shooting and knifing good; hugging bad.
Yet studies have shown that a high percentage of babies “raised” in orphanages wither away before the age of two if they are starved for tactile communication.
Oh, well. Stiff upper lip and all that. A British politician was recently labeled ‘Hug-a-Hoodie’ for daring to suggest affection might be a potential solution to antisocial behavior. Sure, ‘cause the solutions we’re presently using work so well.
If only society really did go to the apes. In Mexico when two bands of spider monkeys meet, they hug the 'enemy' to diffuse tension and aggression. Bet if those monkeys spoke human they'd channel Entourage's Ari Gold: Can't we all just hug it out, bitch?