Hot Topic: Do you believe in love at first sight? Have you experienced it – and was it “the real thing” or lust?
Posted by: Aly Walansky
That "KABLOOM" that my co-panelists speak of most certainly exists. I think it's what a lot of us romantics strive for our whole lives - raised by Harlequin romance novels and afternoon soap operas, we are taught that animalistic instant attraction can exist, and actually lead to a white picket face and puppy.
Is that realistic? I don't know. I believe that instant-attraction can lead to a great fling, hot sex, and a lot of fun. It is lust. But love? Based on what? How their butt looks in their jeans? The scent of their cologne? That's only dime-store novel love. And that's just fine. We all need a little extra passion, fantasy, and dare I say, chemical-attraction-induced lust, in our lives.
That's not to say that instant lust can't be a component of the eventual 'something bigger'. Hell, it's probably one of the best components to have. But when you are seeing that person, across the crowded room, under the guise of your third martini and an appreciation of fine abs, it ain't a spiritual sort of connection you're going for.