Posted by: Evan Marc Katz
Topic: Recently some schools banned hugging and “extreme displays of public affection” – what impact do you think this will have on kids and teens, as they become adults?
There are two different things that are going on here:
Extreme displays of public affection.
Until I get a definition of “extreme displays of public affection”, I have to assume it means anything more than kissing in the hallways. And while I’ll admit, I haven’t been to high school in – gulp - 17 years, I wouldn’t think that heavy petting and oral sex were so prevalent as to need a “banning”.
I mean, I know kids move faster these days – but do they really do it in public?
I’ll admit remember being jealous of some of the more popular guys who experienced a greater amount of PDA in high school. But I don’t remember seeing anything that was remotely “rated R”. So either I’m severely underestimating the extent of this problem, or I’m thinking that schools need to loosen their ties a bit.
I was inclined to say, “let kids be kids”, but I think it’s more about letting people be people. This isn’t the same as two adults getting it on in the copy room (which, frankly, is okay by me, too); this is prohibiting two hormone-infused teenagers from making out in the parking lot. And while being publicly cheesy may not be conducive to a studious environment, I wouldn’t go so far as to suggest that Our Children Are Being Left Behind because of a little hallway PDA.
And while I don’t think there is any radical impact of stifling your romantic impulses during school hours (it would, after all, prepare kids for the workplace), I think this is an attempt to legislate something that that should not be legislated. Affection. Warmth. Hugging.
Next thing you know, you’ll tell me they’ve banned breast cancer awareness T-Shirts.
Paging George Orwell...